Yahoo answers addresses co-parenting:
Question 1: Does it matter if a child is raised by 1 or 2 parents?
Excellent children can be raised by a single parent. Children can be raised poorly by 2 parents. Your question however is: "Does it matter?" The answer is: It matters in at least two primary ways: a) Raising a child with only one main caregiver and/or financial provider will likely be a distinctly different experience for both the parent and child and b) WHO raises the child is inherent in the decision to have only one or two parents.
Question 1: Does it matter if a child is raised by 1 or 2 parents?
Excellent children can be raised by a single parent. Children can be raised poorly by 2 parents. Your question however is: "Does it matter?" The answer is: It matters in at least two primary ways: a) Raising a child with only one main caregiver and/or financial provider will likely be a distinctly different experience for both the parent and child and b) WHO raises the child is inherent in the decision to have only one or two parents.
Question 2: Does it matter if the parents are gay or straight?
The sexual orientation of a person should not be a major determinative factor in considering whether someone would be a good co-parent. And whatever "orientation" or "gender" education that me and my co-parent did not have, we could work hard to expose and educate our children about. So, I don't think "having a man and a woman" is necessary, even if that gender diversity would provide many benefits.
Question 3: I'm a single, straight woman considering having a child with a gay, male friend . . . Has anyone else created this kind of alternative family? How has it worked? . . . where can I get more information?
Parenting and relationships inherently involve laws and rights. If you are going to have children in a non-marital relationship, make certain you know all there is to know about the federal and (your) state's laws on:- Common law marriage- Gay unions- Parental rights to children born out of wedlock- Property dissolution in the event of separation- Child custody statutory and case law. You are heading into indefinite and fluctuating legal areas. Put all your intents regarding the following into writing, signed, dated, by all parties and some disinterested witnesses:- Custody if you stay together (Shared? How? With what legal rights & documentation), - Custody if you should part wih the co-parent (Expect child support? May not be for you to determine, but discuss anyway)- Property devisements (Will the partner or child get your wealth if you die? Vice versa?)- Parenting in the event of your death (Who do you want to have custody if you die?) Like with a pre-nuptual agreement, articulate the best answers you have to the tough questions that may arise when conflicts begin.
3 comments:
Did you do it? As strange as it sounds, I wish I had someone like your friend to have a child with.
I am expecting my first child, and the father is my gay best friend. We already lived togther, and just bought a larger home to accommodate the growing family. I could not ask for a more loving or supportive partner to go thru pregnancy with. I actually think he is more excited about this than I am. We sought legal advice before proceeding with this to ensure we both had equal rights to the child.
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